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If you have discovered that your partner has a sex/porn addiction or has engaged in compulsive sexual behaviors, your world has likely been shattered. You may be feeling shock, confusion, rage, and profound sadness, questioning your reality and your own sanity. You are not "co-dependent" or "co-addicted"; you are a normal person experiencing a traumatic response to profound relational betrayal. 

As the partner’s of sex/porn addict you might have had a “sixth sense” for a long time that something was wrong, but may not have found proof until recently to understand the nature and scope of the problem. Frequently people find us when the house of cards built by the sex/porn addict has come crashing down. Painful discoveries exist in an array of cascading circumstances for the sex addict: being arrested, being “outed” by an affair partner, the spouse coming across an undeleted browsing history, photos of sexting unintentionally shared across devices — whatever the situation partners are devastated by the betrayal.

To compound insult to injury, the initial discovery is frequently followed by the further trauma of “staggered disclosure,” whereby the sex/porn addict reveal to their spouse only those details which are pertinent to the latest piece of evidence found by the spouse after their detective work.

Healing After Betrayal. Rebuilding Safety.

Rediscovering Yourself.

Discovering that a partner has engaged in sexual betrayal — whether through infidelity, pornography, or compulsive sexual behavior — can be devastating. It can shake your sense of safety, self-worth, and reality. The pain of betrayal is not just emotional; it’s deeply traumatic.

At Life Balance Counseling Peoria, we understand that betrayed partners experience a form of trauma known as betrayal trauma. Our therapists provide a safe, confidential space for you to process what has happened, begin to heal, and decide what rebuilding looks like for you — with or without your partner.

Understanding Betrayal Trauma

When the person you trust most is the source of pain, it can turn your world upside down. Many betrayed partners experience:

• Shock, confusion, or disbelief

• Intense anger, sadness, or anxiety

• Obsessive thoughts or intrusive images

• Difficulty sleeping or concentrating

• Loss of trust or safety in relationships

• Self-blame or questioning one’s worth

• Emotional numbing or hypervigilance

• Feeling isolated or alone in the experience

These are normal responses to trauma — not signs of weakness. Healing begins with understanding that your reactions are valid and that recovery is possible.

Our Approach to Healing

At Life Balance Counseling Peoria, we use a trauma-informed, empowerment-based approach to help betrayed partners move from shock and pain toward clarity, stability, and healing.

Therapy focuses on:

• Stabilization and emotional grounding after discovery

• Psychoeducation on betrayal trauma to normalize your experience

• Processing grief, anger, and loss in a safe, supported way

• Boundary-setting and self-protection skills

• Rebuilding trust — internally and externally

• Reconnecting with your identity and confidence

Our therapists meet you where you are — whether you’re deciding to stay, separate, or simply find your footing again. You don’t need to have all the answers right now.

When Couples Choose to Heal Together

For some couples, joint therapy becomes part of the healing process after individual stabilization. If desired, we offer couples counseling with clinicians trained in relational trauma and trust restoration to help partners:

• Rebuild emotional safety and communication

• Develop accountability and transparency practices

• Address underlying issues contributing to betrayal

• Explore forgiveness and reconnection when ready

Couples therapy is always guided by your pace, your needs, and your readiness.

Our Commitment to Safety and Support

We understand that betrayal trauma is not just about broken trust — it’s about rebuilding a sense of emotional and physical safety. Our clinicians offer confidential, compassionate care grounded in empathy and respect.

Many of our therapists also have experience supporting clients through trauma, addiction recovery, and complex family systems, offering a holistic approach to healing for both individuals and couples.

Begin Your Healing Journey

Betrayal can leave deep wounds — but with support, you can reclaim your strength, self-worth, and peace. Whether you choose to rebuild your relationship or move forward independently, you deserve healing and clarity.