The Betrayal Bind introduces new language, concepts, and imagery to explore the crucial relational dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing. 

Discovering a partner’s sexual betrayal spins your world out of control. In a split second, your sense of safety is shattered, your trust is gone, and everything you thought you could count on is in question. 

Betrayed partners, whether dealing with an isolated infidelity or a pattern of sexual compulsivity, need immediate support to navigate the new terrain of their relationship. They need a clear articulation of betrayal trauma, a thorough education about their normal attachment-based reactions, and a proven path to healing. 

By focusing on how a partner’s attachment system functions in the wake of sexual betrayal, The Betrayal Bind offers a new, game-changing exploration into an age-old problem and connects the dots from research to the lived experience of betrayed partners.

This is a guidebook for betrayed partners of sex addicts. Stefanie brought together leading experts in the field of sex addiction and family therapy to guide the reader through some of the most common difficult questions asked in early recovery: Should I stay or should I go?, How Do I Set Boundaries and Keep Myself Safe?, What Does It Mean if My Partner Has Shown an Interest in Minors? and “What should I tell the kids?” Each of these topics are tackled in individual chapters producing a comprehensive guide that offers readers expertise on how to begin the painful road of mending a shattered heart.

This Workbook guides partners through the phases of healing from the heartbreak and betrayal of being partners of sex addicts and to discover hope and healing. When you discover that the person you loved and trusted most in the world is hiding a secret life as a sex addict, the result can be devastating. Facing that heartbreak is what this book is all about. The healing process will take time regardless of whether you decide to stay in the relationship or leave.

Facing Heartbreak weaves real life stories with practical therapeutic advice and specific tasks that gently educate, empower, and guide the partner of the sex addict through a process of recovery. Using Dr. Patrick Carnes' thirty-task sex recovery model, readers will learn to heal from the heartbreak and betrayal as they discover hope and healing.

Sexual addiction and compulsive sexual behavior often steal a person's ability to achieve emotional or sexual intimacy. Both addicts and their partners may suffer in isolation, ashamed and afraid, not knowing where to turn for help. Your Sexually Addicted Spouse shatters that stigma and shame and provides understanding and empathy for the addict and his or her spouse. Barbara Steffens' groundbreaking research was the first to show that partners are not codependents but post-traumatic stress victims, while Marsha Means' personal experience provides insights, strategies, and critical steps to recognize, deal with, and heal partners of sexually addicted relationships. Firsthand accounts and stories reveal the impact of this addiction on survivors' lives. Chapters end with "On a Personal Note" questions and propose new paths that lead from trauma to empowerment, health, and hope. Useful appendices list health and mental health care providers and clergy.

A go-to guide on how to confront, heal from, and ultimately thrive after the devastation of betrayal by a partner's compulsive sexual or other addictive behavior

This book specifically for partners affected by addictive behavior that addresses, in detail, how to identify, create, and maintain boundaries as a vital component of self-care and an indispensable tool for healing and growth. Through working the 5-Step Boundary Solution partners will:

~ gain clarity,

~ reduce the chaos inherent in relationships impacted by sex addiction;

~ feel more empowered and in control of their lives;

~ discover whether or not their relationship with the addict is salvageable.

A self-help manual for partners affected by sex addiction.

Those who act out sexually, whether through pornography, cybersex, prostitutes, voyeurism, and/or multiple affairs, leave their partners reeling in rage, incredible shame, and isolation. In this taboo-shattering and practical guidebook, partners affected by sex addiction can learn to develop healthy boundaries and make positive changes in their lives. The skills-building exercises presented are designed to help partners better understand the disease of addiction and how it is affecting their relationship. Intimate Treason provides a path to healing that gives voice to partners' truths as they travel on their own journey of recovery.

Multiple affairs, compulsive pornography, prostitutes, and voyeurism—no matter their “drug” of choice, men who act out sexually leave their partners reeling in fear, rage, shame, and isolation. But there is hope. Bestselling author Claudia Black’s revised edition of her classic work Deceived offers women in relationships plagued by sexual betrayal the validation and guidance to create a new path of clarity, direction, and confidence.

Dr. Black uses stories of women who have been through a wide variety of experiences to help readers develop the understanding and skills to confront the trauma of the betrayal. She offers them the opportunity to shift from their overwhelming emotions to action derived from self-esteem and integrity. Deceived encourages women to proactively emerge from traumatic stress and emotional isolation and discover their power to facilitate their own healing, allowing them to move forward in their lives.

As a trained APSATS Partner Trauma Specialist, Melissa’s role is to help you navigate the traumatic effects of this betrayal on your road to recovery, growth, and healing. Her approach is direct yet empathetic, action-oriented yet grounded, strength-based and non-shaming, and, most importantly, founded on the understand of the profound traumatic abuse that betrayed partners experience.

Melissa works from the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM) developed by the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). This model views you, the partner, as someone who has experienced significant wounding and trauma as a result of events completely out of your control. This is not your fault! Reach out for help now.

Shelby just completed the APSATS training to become a Partner Trauma Specialist. Shelby will help you name the betrayal as trauma, create emotional & physical safety, offer containment to allow clients to process their anger, grief, ambivalence, and shattered identity. And further along the journey her clients will rebuild self-trust and agency, be prepared to make informed decisions. Shelby works from the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM) developed by the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). This model views you, the partner, as someone who has experienced significant wounding and trauma as a result of events completely out of your control. This is not your fault! Reach out for help now.

Per his CSAT training, Les’ role is to help you navigate the traumatic effects of this betrayal on your road to recovery, growth, and healing. His approach is direct yet empathetic, action-oriented yet grounded, strength-based and non-shaming, and, most importantly, founded on the understand of the profound traumatic abuse that betrayed partners experience.

As a Marriage & Family Therapist, Alan worked for years with many sex/porn addicts, betrayed partners, and couples struggling with these and related issues. But he knew something was missing, but did not know what until his friend helped co-write with Carol Juergensen Sheets the book, “Help.Her.Heal.”

Upon reading and applying the principles of this book, his perspective shifted profoundly. So much so that in the Fall 2023, Alan and several other staff members completed the ERCEM (Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model) developed by Carol Juergensen Sheets.

The ERCEM training provided a clear, step-by-step roadmap for fostering safety in the relationship, empathy-building, radical ownership, and truth-telling within the relationship, even and especially in the early stages of recovery. Alan realized that the traditional methods he had been using often left couples stuck in cycles of anger and disconnection, unable to bridge the empathy gap, allow the betrayed partner to feel safe, and to connect.